A is in charge of logistic for a performance.
B is the director of the performance.
B: Hi A，we need wireless microphone for the performance
A: But we dun have wireless microphone
B: Can you try to borrow them from other committees or clubs?
A: I dun think they have these things, usually microphones are provided by the theater. But the theater we rent this time don't have wireless microphone.
B: How do you know other clubs don't have wireless microphone? you tell me they don't have even before you check with them?
A: This is common sense, everyone knows
B: (stared at A for a while) I dun care how you are going to make it, but you must get at least 4 wireless microphones before next Friday, our rehearsal is drawing near.
A: What can i do? where can i get those microphones?
B: This is your own problem, you are in charge of logistic
A: But you are in charge of the whole performance, you can not ask others to do things out of their reach.
B:.........
A:.........
B think A is not doing his best while A believes B is forcing him to do something out of his reach.
What do you think?
Blog Post #7: Reflections
15 years ago
This conflict was more or less brought about by irritation.
ReplyDeleteYour situation shows us how, the way words are said as well as the tone, timing and perception of them can adversely affect a given situation. If we could turn back time, perhaps A could phrase his reply differently to show that he does indeed know that the other clubs do not have the mics or could simply just give them a call to check it out.
B on the other hand was in the wrong when he made such a demand. Throwing your problem to another person is not a good way of solving a problem. It shows lousy leadership skills as well as proves that you are an irresponsible person. B should have tried to work with A to see how such a problem could have been solved.
Since the incident has already occurred, I believe that both should try to work things out. B being the leader should set a good example and try to work things out with A. However,as with most situation, there must be a give and take. A should also try to work things out with B by explaining what he has done to try and solve the problem.
All in all, this nasty incident could have been avoided if everyone was a little nicer to each other. So be nice.
Ryan
Hey Zaizhi,
ReplyDeleteIn the problem you have highlighted above, i believe fault lies on both of them.
In the case of A, being the logistic in charge, he has to be resourceful. I personally would expect him to be the one to find the microphones and not give excuses that its out of his reach. However, if he unable to find it, he should highlight to his director in a polite manner and figure out a solution to the problem.
As for B, he should have be more polite in asking A to find the microphones. Instead of ordering him. As he needs A's help.
Being humble and asking for hep in a polite manner can solve many problems. You don't have to go for a workshop to know that.
Cheerz
Hey Zaizhi,
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading this problem that you have posted. You really described the problem in great detail, and brought out A and B's emotions very clearly. Did you make up this story, or is it something that you have experienced?
I agree with Jay that both parties are at fault here. A is not fulfilling his duties well, and I am not surprised that B is frustrated with A. However, because B is in a leadership role, I expect better from him. As a leader, his role is not merely to ensure that the show runs well, but also to help those under him to grow into their roles. B would do well to remember that no one is perfect, not even he, and extend grace accordingly.
As Jay and Ryan have already mentioned, it would be good if B could phrase his request in a polite manner, and perhaps give specific suggestions as to where the microphones can be found.
By the way, I think there's a spelling error in the title of your blog post. :) Also, I know that there is a language component to our grade, so you may wish to write your story in proper English. I know that it sounds more authentic in Singlish, but I'm not sure if our professor will see it that way. :)
Regards,
Benjamin
Hi Zaizhi,
ReplyDeleteIt is a vivid description, like this quarrel is just happening in front of my eyes. However, there are some small grammar mistakes in the conversation, such as 'the theater... don't have...'. I think these mistakes should be corrected even they were so in the real conversation.
In this case, A should be definately responsible in getting microphones. From the conversation, I find A is a kind of lazy. He did not try possible ways before he told B he was ub able to get microphones. As a responsible logistic head, A needs to utilize his social network to get microphone. Even eventually he could not finish his work, he can convince B that he had tried his best. B wound not get angry with him.
As for B, he was apparently very stressful and annoyed by so many troubles. He lose his patient to explain and give advice to A. B should not said so much and debated on this. He could give A a hint that if you can find, I could assign more CCA point to you. That would be a motivation to such a lazy B.
Regards,
Chen Zhi