Since supposed to write an open topic blog post regarding to professional communication, I would like to share some thoughts on how to communicate well with others. All those thoughts come from my own experiences, and they are more like to be my standards on communicating with friends.
To make a temporary friend, we only need to show our respect to others, but to make a life-long friend, we need to be sincere. Respect is the foundation for communication between friends, but a better friendship requires more. Despite the prevailing of materialism now days, I still believe sincere is one of the key factors for a good friendship or colleagueship. The only way for people to understand each other is Exchanging their thoughts and feelings sincerely. In view of this, we should express our perceptions to others sincerely and in a suitable manner.
Tolerance is also important. People need to be tolerant. Others may have done something that makes you unhappy, their habit, smell, or characters may make you feel uncomfortable, they may failed to finish the assignment you have assigned them, etc. Such things may happen every day around us. However, nobody and nothing is perfect in this world, we should be clear that we ourselves also have some shortcomings. We just need to be tolerant to each other.
Generally, there are many techniques and other principles on communication with others. But I believe sincere and tolerant are the most basic and important ones
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Dear Zaizhi,
ReplyDeleteYou structured your blog well and ended nicely with a straightforward summary. Not bad.
I do agree with you that sincerity and tolerance are very important in friendships. I think that people can easily tell if you are not sincere with them. This might eventually lead to them losing their trust in you and subsequently, the loss of the friendships.
Tolerance is also another important virtue to have. This is not just with friends, but with everyone else. Like you mentioned, nobody is perfect and therefore, there would always be conflicts. Tolerance would definitely help to smooth out disagreements.
As for your English, I have to be honest with you and tell you that there are a lot of errors in your blog. If you like, I could help you edit some of your mistakes. Bring a hardcopy to class if you want me to help you with it (I don't really like editing on the computer). Nevertheless, knowing that you are not a native English speaker, you are able to write a decent piece of work.
Cheers,
Glenn
Hi Zaizhi!
ReplyDeleteYou've touched on a very relevant topic that applies to everyone. Everybody in this world needs friends and we develop our personalities and character mainly through the company we hang out with and interact with.
I do agree with you that sincerity plays a very important role in building friendships as it will affect immensely on the outcome and quality of the relationship.
Tolerance is also something that takes time to hone and develop as the tolerance level of one differs from another. It is also difficult to draw the limit of tolerance as some issues or behaviours do require some action to be taken.
Nevertheless, sincerity and tolerance go a long way=)
Cheers
Cassandra
Hi Zaizhi,
ReplyDeleteThat was a good effort in attempting to relate the important characteristics one should exhibit in order to build lasting friendships.
I agree that sincerity and tolerance are crucial elements in fostering friendships. Sincerity would create a sense of trust while tolerance will lead to eventual acceptance.
However, we should also acknowledge that there are many other traits which are needed to build genuine friendships as well, such as concern, generosity, politeness, and the list can go on. Also, I believe that some traits have to be differentially exhibited to others as some people for instance, may need to be shown more care instead of a another personality trait.
Nevertheless, time, effort and good personality traits are required to foster life-long interpersonal relationships. We should also not forget that effective communication skills play an important role in building friendships. The fostering of friendships is challenging but rewarding. Though there are no heuristics to achieve this goal, sincerity and tolerance would be a good start.
Cheers,
Bryan
Hey ZaiZhi,
ReplyDeleteIt is a very interesting topic you brought up. I agree with you that tolerance and sincerity are important factors to take note of when it comes to making friends.
But I was wondering, should we just tolerate or should we accept those flaws of our friends? There is a difference between them as I am sure you are aware of. There is a limit to tolerance, while accepting is well more or less limitless.
So when it comes to making long lasting friendship, acceptance should outweigh just tolerating a person right?
Cheers, Ryan
Hey ZaiZhi,
ReplyDeleteI love what you wrote in your blog. Very true and i totally agree with it. Being sincere is the most fundamental attitude to having a good communication. We live in a world where people speak in different dialects and languages. The only way one is going to know how genuine you are is in your sincerity.
Cheerz
Jay
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ReplyDeleteHey Zaizhi,
ReplyDeleteA concise write-up which definitely conveys the message you want to send across to your readers.. I agree that sincerity and tolerance are important virtues of communication. In any relationship, the way one expresses himself or herself is very important in ensuring the strength of the relationship. Once one starts to get vibes that the other party is not sincere, he/she tends to distant himself from the person. This jus strains the relationship.Tolerance also plays a key role in communciation. One needs to be patient to handle any shortcomings of the other person and learn to compromise and accomodate.No one is perfect right?:)